Daughter Defends Mom from Critics

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Letter to Editor

Saturday, 12 May 2012 02:30

By Kimberly

Dear editor, I would like to respond to the director who wrote in response to my mom. I am as disappointed in that director as he seems to be when referring to my mom. 

First of all, I acknowledge him as Mr Doyle (as Caribarena published) and not as "whomever," because my parents taught me well growing up. I would like to let him know that my mother's name is Mrs Joyce Spencer, and not the "whomever" he referred to her as.  

Reading and understanding is not everyone’s priority, since some prefer to hear and see only what they are looking for. My mom did send a letter to your church at Clare Hall, and if they tell you otherwise, they are lying. I also get from reading the posts that some of his members also think it was someone from their church who wrote the letter. That says a lot for that church, doesn't it? It means that they are well aware of the matter. Well, well, if we were the type of bad people some made us out to be, I would say: "Mek arwe go pong tory," but "me too science."

To Caribarena and readers, my mom and I are very aware that there are lots of SDA clubs across our country. We are also aware that some of the members of these clubs are not SDA members and do not come from SDA homes. However, we also know that all of these clubs, like the director said, have rules, but it is the leaders who have to insist that the rules are followed and assist the children in following the rules. As mom said, she knew of a previous leader from that church at Clare Hall who did not condone such dress codes or behaviours.

I would like to posit that if this director was consistent with his checks at this particular church, then he would have known of this matter, for it did not start a few months or weeks ago. Unless perhaps when he’s making his checks, they know beforehand and thereby try to create a better impression of themselves for him to see.

What mom saw and experienced and felt is what she wrote about. I only wish she had listened to me. I told her to leave that matter alone, because those people cover up for each other and she was likely to be cursed at one way or another.

Now mom is actually saying that she would never again approach them on any issue that has to do with them (SDA members or their children).

Also, for the record of the director who wrote in response, there was absolutely no part of my mom's letter that suggested that all your 30 clubs have the same inappropriate behaviour or dress code. She spoke specifically of Clare Hall SDA and that was the focus. And to the young people who seem to be against her response to their behaviour and dress code, I know if you have good parents, they would not be proud of your attitude. 

I read the posts and I felt horrible for mom, but all that happens in the dark will come to light - that I say to the members. My mom only got a chance to read them for herself today, because I pick her up every weekend to spend time with my family.



I am not perfect, and my mother too is not perfect, and I am not suggesting that anyone is, but we can all strive to be, especially when we are in leadership capacity and those children do need to be pointed in a better direction.

I thank Caribarena once again for giving me and my mom the chance to be heard. My mom is and will continue to be a blessing to everyone. If the church had responded to the letter, mom would not have sent her letter to the media.

Also, Kim is the abbreviation for my real name, Kimberly, and anyone who wishes can feel free to curse me too.

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